Being in love is one of the greatest gifts of life. The sharing of affectionate feelings with one another is a vital part of our human experience. No one can live without a measure of love in their life. This is because of our innate need to interact and form bonds with one another. Love consists of companionship, commitment, mutual respect, understanding, harmony, intimacy, communication, honesty, openness and more. Above all, friendship binds all these attributes together.
Friendship has a huge role to play in the success of a relationship. When people are not satisfied with their relationships, they often demand for more such as more intimacy, commitment, honesty, companionship and more. Little do they know that friendship encompasses all of that!
When you are really friends with each other, you’ll experience a more fulfilling love life where intimacy is deeper,commitment is stronger,communication is fantastic,and you are more open with each other. When you truly accept each other regardless of your flaws and focus more on your strengths you’ll find it much easier to forge stronger bonds.
Being friends with each other is simply doing what friends do!
So what do friends do?
Friends know each other
Friends talk with each other
Friends play together
Friends care about each other
Friends enjoy each other’s company
Friends protect each other
Friends share with each other
Friends make & keep special memories
Friends give to each other
Friends meet each other’s needs
Friends cherish their relationship
Friends spend quality time with each other
Friends encourage each other
Friends don’t judge each other
Building a successful relationship involves actively seeking out ways to be better. It may involve doing just about anything to keep the fire burning brighter and on the long run, keep the relationship free from the unnecessary fatigue that can set in after time takes its toll.
In a nutshell, do EVERYTHING that friends do to become better lovers!
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“Wouldn’t it be powerful if you fell in love with yourself so deeply that you would do just about anything if you knew it would make you happy?
This is precisely how much life loves you and wants you to nurture yourself.
The deeper you love yourself, the more the universe will affirm your worth.
Then you can enjoy a lifelong love affair that brings you
the richest fulfillment from inside out”
– Alan Cohen
Thank God for mirrors! It is a wonderful tool that can show you a view of what you look like physically but it is limited because it really can’t show you what you have on your inside.
No matter what you have struggled with in the past from having a low self-esteem to feeling inferior, feeling unwanted or ugly… the moment you begin to accept yourself, refuse to seek/depend on people’s approval of you, develop a healthy self-esteem and gradually love yourself one step at a time, you’ll notice that overtime that same mirror will reveal a more beautiful you!
But do you know that it’s actually not the mirror, it’s you….
because you now accept yourself and love yourself more, everything begins to align to the new perception of yourself EVEN YOUR MIRROR!
Here is how to begin loving yourself
Start by being aware of something good about yourself, it may be as little as your hair texture or length, your nails, your eyes or any other body parts that you see as attractive. It may not necessarily be a body part it could be a character trait, the way you smile or your personality….
Next, start appreciating that good aspect then you’ll realize that your eyes will be opened to see other beautiful aspects of you too. You’ll be shocked at how much beauty you had locked up all these years.
Remember those parts of you that you were uncomfortable with? Start seeing them in a better way and if you feel a need to work on them like exercising more and eating healthier then you can do so, BUT, do so for yourself so that you can be healthy and not for someone else. Remember that on your journey to achieving your goals, you need to love yourself every step of the way.
Give yourself a second chance by forgiving yourself easily when you go wrong. Be optimistic and believe in yourself always.
Be affirmative by speaking positive words concerning yourself “I can do this” “I will be the best me today” I am attractive”, I am a valuable person” etc.
When you love yourself, you create your own happiness. ClickHEREto learn more about creating Happiness.
When you wake up in the morning, take a look into the mirror and let your reflection be the first sight you fall in love with every day. Don’t forget that your relationship with others will be more fulfilling when you have a fulfilling relationship with your own self.
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“If you make friends with yourself, you’ll never be lonely” –Maxwell Maltz
Strap your seat belt as we take a journey into ourselves but first, what really comes to mind when asked the common question; “who are you? ” or “tell me about yourself”
Can you tell who you really are?
Do you know yourself well enough?
Do you know for certain what you are capable of doing?
Do you know your strengths and weaknesses?
As relational beings, we are constantly relating with others in our lives. We have family, friends and others in our society constantly demanding for our attention. The relationship with others in our lives is necessary but what is more important is our relationship with ourselves i.e our intrapersonal relationship. People often go to great lengths to gain skills that will enable them relate better with others in their lives with little emphasis being placed on how well they relate with their own selves.
Let’s make this a bit more practical, take it a challenge; choose a day or maybe one hour to be by yourself. No other person around, no calls, no chats just you…. Then see how well you thrive when you are not in the company of others.
If all you get is boredom, loneliness, hopelessness, helplessness, suicidal thoughts, feeling of worthlessness, fear and all such negative feelings, then something is not right with the quality of your intrapersonal relationship. Some are fantastic when it comes to relating with others and may often avoid being alone for the shortest possible time, they rather thrive well in the company of others. Such people are quick to judge themselves as friendly… but the truth is that they may actually not be friends with their own selves and often have problems in their relationship with others as well. Some others find that they are unable to enjoy their own company and the company of others as well. The third set of people find that they may enjoy their own company and have issues relating with others outside themselves…
It is important to note that none of these three extremes is encouraged but rather, there should be a balance wherein we can have a healthy intrapersonal relationship as well as healthy interpersonal relationships.
The quality of your intrapersonal relationship determines the quality of your interpersonal relationship
When you improve on your intrapersonal relationship, your interpersonal relationships get even better and more fulfilling.
Here are some amazing ways to develop a healthy relationship with yourself
Know yourself: knowing yourself is the foundation for building a healthy relationship with yourself. You may think you know yourself well enough but you still need to do a deeper study of yourself. You’ll notice that some things change as you age while some don’t. Also, know your strengths and weakness, know what to avoid and what to delve into, be sincere with yourself, for example, if you cannot handle harsh criticisms don’t go looking for it. Know what makes you happy and go for it!
Practice Mindfulness meditation:being mindful is simply learning to gain awareness of the present moment, your present thoughts and feelings. Most of time we are unaware of these bodily functions. If you were told to describe how you feel right now what will it be? Stressed?, sad?, uneasy?, relaxed?, happy?, angry?, loved?, unwanted? Or fulfilled?. Now let’s have a quick mindfulness practice, notice when you breathe in and out…. Then take the “in breath” slow……………..ly and the “out breath” slow………………ly also. Do this for about 2 minutes at different times today and every single day. That’s the beginning of being mindful! For more information about mindfulness, kindly visitmobilehealthconsult.org
Be yourself: you are the only YOU in the entire galaxy! So enjoy being you. You may feel that your weaknesses far outweighs your strengths. Well, look inside you once again and search deep within you. If you are sincere with yourself well enough to know your weaknesses, then the fact that you can bring it to the level of your consciousness means it is 50% resolved!. Be yourself through your journey to become better every day!
Don’t let anyone or societal standards make you feel any less of yourself. Enjoy being you, enjoy your own company, communicate with yourself and have a bank of happy memories about yourself and your achievements. Remember, the better the quality of your intrapersonal relationship, the more fulfilling your interpersonal relationships will be.
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Being in love is one of the greatest gifts of life. The sharing of affectionate feelings with one another is a vital part of our human experience. No one can live without a measure of love in their life. This is because of our innate need to interact and form bonds with one another. Love consists of companionship, commitment, mutual respect, understanding, harmony, intimacy, communication, honesty, openness and more. Above all, friendship binds all these attributes together.
When you are really friends with each other, you’ll experience a more fulfilling love life where intimacy is deeper, commitment is stronger, communication is fantastic, and you are more open with each other. When you truly accept each other regardless of your flaws and focus more on your strengths you’ll find it much easier to forge stronger bonds.
When you wake up in the morning, take a look into the mirror and let your reflection be the first sight you fall in love with every day. Don’t forget that your relationship with others will be more fulfilling when you have a fulfilling relationship with your own self.
Strap your seat belt as we take a journey into ourselves but first, what really comes to mind when asked the common question; “who are you? ” or “tell me about yourself”
If all you get is boredom, loneliness, hopelessness, helplessness, suicidal thoughts, feeling of worthlessness, fear and all such negative feelings, then something is not right with the quality of your intrapersonal relationship. Some are fantastic when it comes to relating with others and may often avoid being alone for the shortest possible time, they rather thrive well in the company of others. Such people are quick to judge themselves as friendly… but the truth is that they may actually not be friends with their own selves and often have problems in their relationship with others as well. Some others find that they are unable to enjoy their own company and the company of others as well. The third set of people find that they may enjoy their own company and have issues relating with others outside themselves…
being mindful is simply learning to gain awareness of the present moment, your present thoughts and feelings. Most of time we are unaware of these bodily functions. If you were told to describe how you feel right now what will it be? Stressed?, sad?, uneasy?, relaxed?, happy?, angry?, loved?, unwanted? Or fulfilled?. Now let’s have a quick mindfulness practice, notice when you breathe in and out…. Then take the “in breath” slow……………..ly and the “out breath” slow………………ly also. Do this for about 2 minutes at different times today and every single day. That’s the beginning of being mindful! For more information about mindfulness, kindly visit