“If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion”- Dalai Lama
Showing kindness not only to family members and friends but also to strangers is a sure way to enjoy your holiday. Sometimes to make the holiday truly memorable, you will need to do something different from what you’ve done in your past holidays.
Love is better expressed when it is directed at those who do not expect it from you.
Showing love to a spouse, sibling, friend or family member is a common act but then how often do we think about those who are not in any way related to us? How often do we show love to those in need? How often do we reach out to the old, the less privileged, the physically/ mentally challenged, the widowed and even those random individuals we see on the streets?
Do you really want to make this holiday worthwhile?
Then make an effort to meet a need in someone’s life this season
To achieve this, here is a very practical 10- Day plan to reach out to others!
DAY 1:
Make Three People Smile Today
Saying a word of affirmation can help you achieve this. Say things like “you are beautiful/ handsome”, “I love your smile” or “that’s a lovely dress/shirt you have on”. You can also achieve this by giving out a small note with a word of encouragement written on it.
DAY 2:
Buy a gift for a stranger
This act seems a little weird but it is an amazing way to surprise someone this holiday and spice up your holiday as well.
DAY 3:
Give out your good old clothes and other items to someone who needs them
Many of us form the habit of disposing our old stuffs when we no longer need them ignoring the fact that there are some people who cannot afford these items. This season, instead of discarding your good old stuffs, give it to someone who needs it. You’ll be glad you did.
DAY 4:
Help make the environment beautiful
Today, take out time to beautify the environment. Resolve not to litter the environment, take an extra step to clean up your surroundings, plant some flowers, decorate the environment etc. You never can tell how much the beauty of the environment would lighten someone’s heart.
DAY 5:
Spend time with an elderly person today!
Look out for an elderly person in your environment and spend time with him/her. You can also help out with some house chores like taking out the trash, helping out with laundry, cooking a meal, mowing the lawn or you can even tell them a story.
DAY 6:
Be the reason a Child is happy today
The smile you leave on a child’s face today might just be what you need to make your holiday a memorable one this season. Pause and think! Device a means to make a child happy today and see how that makes you feel.
DAY 7:
Visit the Orphanage
Visit the orphanage today. You may need to buy some gift items for the orphans if you wish to. You can also decide to engage them in fun stuffs like teaching them new songs, telling them stories, playing games and acting.
DAY 8:
Reach out to the sick
Your encouragement would go a long way in the recovery process of a sick person today. Visit a hospital and give words of encouragement to the sick!
DAY 9:
Show concern for someone who is despondent
Try to encourage someone who is down. Use both words and actions. Don’t just be sympathetic but as much as possible try to plant hope in the person.
DAY 10:
Be Nice
Be nice to everyone you meet today. Be polite- say please, excuse me, thank you, and I’m sorry as many times as possible. Be quick to forgive those who offend you and also quick to apologize to those you’ve wronged.
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During this time of the year, many families are engaged in various activities like going on trips, reunions, parties, meetings and so on with the aim of reconnecting and reinforcing family ties. The December holiday season also provides an opportunity for estranged family members to restore their relationships and settle all forms of acrimony that may exist amongst them.
“Well, what better time is there to strengthen your most important relationships than during the holidays?”
While some may have it easy when it comes to reconnecting with their family members, on the contrary, there are some others who really want to reconnect as well but they may find it difficult to do so and this might make them tend towards depression, anxiety and all other forms of negative feelings at such a time when they should be having fun!
However the current strength of your family relationship, the following are keys to help restore and further strengthen your family ties during this holiday season.
1. Effective Communication
Communication is one of the most vital aspects of nurturing any relationship and it goes beyond mere verbal expression. Keep in mind that when communicating, your facial expressions, gestures, tone of voice and other forms of body language can speak more volume than what you may intend especially when it comes to family relationships. The tricky part is that you may be unaware of your non-verbal communication towards your family as a result of familiarity or otherwise. During this holiday, make a commitment to be more conscious and courteous about your non-verbal communication with your family in order to boost the effectiveness of your communication.
2. Quality Time
To many families, having free time to spend together seems to be a luxury as we are often too busy with work, school and other engagements all year round. The holiday season is a great opportunity to reconnect and strengthen family relationships. When planning the holiday, ensure to include special “family time” to do things together as a team such as planning a party together, playing games, having a picnic or going on a trip.
3. Giving
Like the old saying goes, charity begins at home. It literally begins at home! This is a season to show love and the best expression of love is through giving. It requires some level of selflessness on your part. Giving is inexhaustible as there is always something to give, it could be gifts, money, advice, support and even giving your time to listen or to share a special moment will all go a long way in strengthening your family relationship.
Meeting a need in a family member’s life during this holiday will create a sense of being thought of as important and will in turn strengthen your relationship. Remember to communicate effectively, spend quality time and giveduring this season! To gain more tips on strengthening family ties click Here.
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Stress is a subject matter that concerns every individual because it affects both the young and the old alike. Stress is simply the body’s reaction to stimulus that can cause disequilibrium in our physical and mental functioning.
The irony of the December holiday season is such that amidst all the excitements of the festive season, lies somewhat latent stress provoking factors. This is because the activities associated with this season often brings about a lot of stress especially when we fail to take adequate measures to avoid it.
Before we go into ways to prevent/ manage stress this season, let’s pause and ask ourselves this question;
What causes stress in the holiday season?
Holiday stress is caused by so many factors. Here are some of them:
UNPLANNED HOLIDAY: Many a times we start our holiday without having a plan of what we want to achieve in the season. We therefore find ourselves stumbling into every activity that suffices during the holiday season and soon we become overwhelmed and really stressed because of the inability to organize ourselves.
MONEY:Without doubt, the holiday season comes with so many expenses. In a bid to make the holiday worthwhile, parents may find themselves worrying about how to give their children a memorable holiday, young people are also likely to worry about fashion trends and fun places to visit. In addition, some business owners may worry about settling outstanding debts. All these expectations need financing and could be quite challenging.
CHANGE:Change can also bring about stress. Experiences such as the death of a loved one, divorce, marriage, childbirth, change in socio-economic status, new environment etc. can cause stress especially if it occurs during the holiday season. This is because some individuals tend to get anxious about change and might experience difficulty adjusting to new situations in their lives coupled with the potentially overwhelming nature of the festive season.
4. COMPETITION:
This holiday season is usually accompanied with lots of competition. Ranging from entertainers trying to hit the entertainment industry with their latest performances, companies trying to sell their products and different organizations trying to meet their target for the year. This could also cause stress for these group of people.
5. LIFESTYLE: During the holiday season, people tend to get lazy and are unable to maintain a healthy lifestyle. Negative holiday lifestyles such as poor diet, little or no exercise, inadequate sleep etc can lead to stress.
Quick tips for enjoying a stress-free holiday
#1 Plan Ahead: One sure way of managing stress is by planning ahead. Planning helps you focus on what is really important. Don’t just plan also STICK TO IT. “Not sticking to your plan is the same as not having a plan”. For more information on planning click Here.
#2 Avoid Comparison: Do not compare yourself with others or compare this holiday season with the ones you’ve had in the past. Be aware that every year is unique in its splendor and challenges. So quit comparing, be grateful, embrace the season and enjoy every bit of it!
#3 Don’t be stereotyped: Having a holiday season filled with the same routine year in year out can become so boring and invariably cause stress. Change your routine this year- take a trip, volunteer in a community work, join a group, give to charity, etc. Just Do Something Different!
#4 Relax!: Do not become so overwhelmed by the activities in the season that you forget to relax. A regular breathing exercise is really helpful in relaxing the nerves and controlling stress. Also, take timeout to be alone and just relax. Have enough sleep and be sure that you are not overworking yourself. Delegating some responsibilities might be of help too.
#5 Meditate:
This is an excellent way to ease off stress. Meditation helps heal the body and mind therefore combating stress and enabling you achieve focus during the holiday season.
Remember this!
Your physical and mental well-being is not only important to you but also to your loved ones.
Staying healthy this season may be the best gift you can give to them!!
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Hurray!!! It’s that special time of the year again. The end of the year that is associated with lots of activities and festivities. For some people, it is a time to reunite with family and friends, for some others, it is a time to reflect over the year and review set goals while for another group of people, it is a time to celebrate and be thankful for the year. No doubt, it can also prove to be quite challenging, whereby rather than enjoying the holiday, most of us end up getting stressed and are unable to cope during this season.
What are your plans/expectations for this holiday season?
Could it be to have just a “normal holiday” or a “memorable one”?
You can have a memorable one this year with the following helpful tips:
Tip # 1
Have a good plan
Having a good plan cannot be overemphasized during this holiday season and as the old saying goes “if you fail to plan, you plan to fail” Have a plan for EVERYTHING! (Food, shopping, trips, guests, decorations and other expenses) And remember to keep it REALISTIC too!
Tip # 2
Stick to your plan!
Sticking to your plan will require a whole lot of discipline on your part. Stick to your budget and avoid emotional spending.
Tip # 3
Get help
If you are not too good with planning or sticking to plans, you may benefit from getting help from a trusted friend, family member or trained professionals that can help create a memorable holiday for you.
Tip # 4
Keep your plan visible
Endeavor to keep copies of your plan in places where it is always visible to you like, your wallet, on your mirror, on the fridge, close the bed, on your door and every other place you are likely to look at several times during the day.
Tip # 5
Be mindful
Mindfulness is moment to moment awareness of your thoughts, feelings and emotions in a non-judgmental way. It is a powerful tool that can help you throughout this holiday season from planning to achievement of every single item on your list. Take out time for yourself to practice mindfulness during this season and enjoy all the benefits. For more information about mindfulness meditation, kindly visit www.mobilehealthconsult.org
As you make your plans for this holiday season, ensure to have realistic expectations in order to avoid getting disappointed at the end. The above tips are certainly helpful to creating a memorable holiday for you and your loved ones.
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No two persons are the same. We may share the same physical features but we all are unique in our own way!
At one time or the other, we must have come across the word personality. Often times we hear people talk about their attributes or some behaviours being described as a their personality. Some frequently asked questions about personality are;
What exactly is personality?
Is it truly unique to every individual?
How does it come about?
Can it be learned and improved upon?
Can it change?
Let’s find out!
What is personality?
Personality refers to the differences in the way people act, think or feel. It is a pattern of unique features possessed by individuals that distinguishes one person from the next. Surely, we all have someone around us who behaves differently from the way we do and reacts differently to similar situations as we do. This is simply personality in play.
How does it come about?
Where do you think you got your personality from?
Is it majorly hereditary or as a result of your environment?
The debate about where an individual’s personality originates from is quite common as some argue that it is inherited from our parents while others believe that it is acquired from the environment “Nature vs Nurture” . Actually, both biological and environmental factors influence a person’s personality.
This is why individuals exhibit certain personality traits that is similar to that of their parents/family and also have other traits that can be attributed to their environment.
Keep in mind that our environment can include the physical, social, family, cultural and school environment. For example, a person of a certain tribe or race, having lived in a totally different environment from that of his/her origin may take on certain personality traits common to that environment. However, his/her genetically gotten traits will also be exhibited. Therefore, environment and heredity work hand in hand.
Let’s take on a personality challenge!
You’ll require a writing material for this challenge.
Create two lists,
On the first, write out some traits you think you got from your parents/ family and on the other, list some traits you feel you must have gotten from your environment.
We really hope you take this challenge and drop your comments below.
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One common question posed to clients by Physicians,
Psychologists and other professionals in related fields is;
“Are you getting enough sleep?”
Regardless of whatever illness or health related disorder you may be presenting with, keep in mind that sleep is a major influence of good health. It also plays a vital role in your facial appearance during the day, no wonder it is sometimes called “Beauty Sleep”. We all certainly need our daily dose of beauty sleep to keep us feeling refreshed, energetic, attentive and attractive all day long.
There are various forms of sleep problems ranging from mild to severe sleep difficulties. For example, you may constantly have trouble falling asleep at night or difficulties going back to sleep once your sleep has been interrupted. It could also be excessive day time sleepiness or tiredness. Whatever form of persisting sleep difficulties you experience, it is of no doubt that you may have sought various solutions that failed or it may have become a lifestyle which has hampered your health in diverse ways.
Sadly, quite a number of individuals have developed dependence on drugs to be able to sleep deeply. You may be wondering;
Is it really possible to improve sleep without the use of drugs?
Yes it is! and the good news is that you can bid your sleep problem farewell with our range of clinically proven non-invasive and non-drug solutions to sleep problems. They include:
NEUROFEEDBACK THERAPY
This is a brain training technique that focuses on normalizing irregular brainwaves. Sleep problems are as a result of some irregular brainwaves and high stress levels. With Neurofeedback therapy, target brainwaves are being trained while inhibiting unwanted abnormal brainwaves to improve sleep, eliminate stress and other underlying irregularities.
BIOFEEDBACK THERAPY
This is a relaxing therapy that utilizes deep diaphragmatic breathing exercises to calm your mind, ease off distractions, reduce anxiety and allow tranquility thereby improving the onset of deep sleep.
AUDIO-VISUAL ENTRAINMENT THERAPY (AVE)
This is a brain training technique that provides protocols to achieve relaxed attention, calmness and brainwave protocols to improve sleep.
Just before you take your next sleeping pill, keep in mind that all drugs have side effects some of which are adverse! With our innovative approach to sleep problems, you are guaranteed long lasting solutions because they are targeted at training your brain to improve sleep.
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Without doubt, the holiday season comes with so many expenses. In a bid to make the holiday worthwhile, parents may find themselves worrying about how to give their children a memorable holiday, young people are also likely to worry about fashion trends and fun places to visit. In addition, some business owners may worry about settling outstanding debts. All these expectations need financing and could be quite challenging.
Change can also bring about stress. Experiences such as the death of a loved one, divorce, marriage, childbirth, change in socio-economic status, new environment etc. can cause stress especially if it occurs during the holiday season. This is because some individuals tend to get anxious about change and might experience difficulty adjusting to new situations in their lives coupled with the potentially overwhelming nature of the festive season.
Do not become so overwhelmed by the activities in the season that you forget to relax. A regular breathing exercise is really helpful in relaxing the nerves and controlling stress. Also, take timeout to be alone and just relax. Have enough sleep and be sure that you are not overworking yourself. Delegating some responsibilities might be of help too.
This is why individuals exhibit certain personality traits that is similar to that of their parents/family and also have other traits that can be attributed to their environment.
Yes it is! and the good news is that you can bid your sleep problem farewell with our range of clinically proven non-invasive and non-drug solutions to sleep problems. They include:
This is a relaxing therapy that utilizes deep diaphragmatic breathing exercises to calm your mind, ease off distractions, reduce anxiety and allow tranquility thereby improving the onset of deep sleep.